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I graduate in five months & I'm having a wobble

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You've asked 'So, now what?' before, but this is real - and it's scary. Let's help you get some perspective.

If you're in your final year at Uni and you're not feeling some sort of trepidation about entering the 'real world' of work and being a 'proper grown up'... you're lucky.

For the rest of us, we know that our lives at the beginning of 2020 won't resemble life at the end of 2020. For most of us, everything will change and much of it will be out of our control so let's all try and keep it together.

First of all, it's natural to feel anxious -

anxious
/ˈaŋ(k)ʃəs/
adjective
1. feeling or showing worry, nervousness, or unease about something with an uncertain outcome.

That's graduating!

All sorts of thoughts and questions will be running through your head.

1. "I've been in education since I was 5, I'm now in my early 20's I have no real idea what's beyond?"

2. "Am I really going to be expected to do a 9-to-5 for the rest of my life?"

3. "I've made some job applications but had no positive feedback so far?"

4. "Maybe my degree subject is irrelevant for finding a graduate job?"

5. "I've had three fun independent years, I don't want to go back home."

6. "I'm not ready to be a grown up, I want to be a semi-responsible teenager forever."

7. "I'm in debt...how am I supposed to rent or buy a house?"

8. "I know everyone else will be successful and leave me behind."

Thoughts like these can snowball and spiral out of control.

Don't let them. Maintain some perspective. Think in these terms instead...

"I've been in education since I was 5, I'm now in my early 20's I have no real idea what's beyond?"

What's beyond is adventure, independence and the opportunity to forge your own path. Free of being told what to do or where to be. Free to pursue ideas you're interested in and values you care about. Millions have graduated before you and its worked out for them. If they can do it, so can you.

"Am I really going to be expected to do a 9-to-5 for the rest of my life?"

Not if you don't want to. 9-to-5 isn't that bad providing you respect the people you work with, or you believe in the product or company you're a part of. A 9-to-5 profession isn't like the part-time jobs or internships you've had before. Generally, people listen, your ideas are valid and you're rewarded.

"I've made some job applications but had no positive feedback so far?"

That happens. That happens to everyone. What's important is that you remain positive and keep applying and creating opportunities. Don't let rejection get to you. "Some will, some won't, who cares? What's next?"

"Maybe my degree subject is irrelevant for finding a graduate job?"

If that's true where are all the long-term unemployed people who studied Philosophy and Theology (BSc)? The reality is that for most people (except those specialist highly skilled or technical vocations) your degree goes part way to helping you secure a job. What matters is you, your personality, your willingness to learn, adapt, work in a team and get things done.

"I've had three fun independent years, I don't want to go back home."

So keep in touch with friends (easy) and find a house share in a new location. You've done it before, you can do it again.

"I'm not ready to be a grown up, I want to be a semi-responsible teenager forever."

So go traveling, get it out of your system and move on. You can still be semi-responsible and have a full-time job. Just don't be the perpetual teenager its a waste.

"I'm in debt how am I supposed to rent or buy a house with a graduate salary?"

Don't get ahead of yourself, don't waste time getting into a pickle about future fictional scenarios that you can't control at the moment. Give yourself a break.

"I know everyone else will be successful and leave me behind."

Remember, Social Media is BS. Focus on getting you in the best position you can, don't judge yourself by your peers - I know that's tough.

If you need to clear your head download an app to help you meditate and breathe for 15mins. There are lots of free ones around. Some are worth it for the cheesy calming voicesovers alone.

Finally all you can really do is work the 'here and now', which means getting the best degree result you can, apply for as many jobs. as you can and have as much fun as you can.

#keepgoing

Good luck from all at graduate-jobs.com

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